Increasingly, and in greater numbers, Nigerian men are marrying non-Nigerian women.
In droves, they are marrying Caribbean nationals, White-Americans and African-Americans.
They are marrying, not for the primarily purpose of acquiring “greencard,” but for other noble reasons.
The more I notice this phenomenon, the more I wonder about some Nigerian men. Culturally, Nigerian men are overbearing, controlling, and paternalistic.They relate to their fathers and mothers differently.They believe it is “a man’s world” and so they have the tendency to relegate women to subservient roles. True globalization and modernity and westernization are impacting the Nigerian culture.In cities across Nigeria, these changes are noticeable; but over all, the effects of these changes are minimal.A Nigerian may be well read, well educated and well traveled, in the end though, he will succumb to the weight and influence of the Nigerian culture.
We have a society where anthropological and sociological behaviors are still paramount.For instance, a great many Nigerians still practice levirate and sororate marriage, and they also engage in polygyny, bridewealth, and matrilocal and patrilocal living arrangements.And in spite of westernization, Nigerians are still not comfortable with public display of affection, i.e.kissing and verbal declaration of love; and neither are they comfortable with open and public discussions of abortion, sex and exotic sex acts.That Nigerians are not comfortable with such public declarations and have not completely embraced westernization is due, to a large extent, on the hold the traditional African culture has on the vast majority of the populace.At the core of every Nigerian, and indeed every African, is the thumbprint, the umbilical cord of their ancestors.