As sociopaths we all have a baby sister named Borderline Personality Disorder.
But don't underestimate her -- she can be nefarious when she wants to be.
Though she's more likely to steal a spouse than to steal B.
The BPD is a lot of things, but most interesting to me is the skill with which she sheds one skin after another.
For narcissists the mirror is always pointed at themselves, but for BPDs the mirror is always pointed at others -- allowing those around them to see exactly what they want to see.* For instance, under the title Meet the Marriage Magnet, this self-confessed chameleon explains why she believes she received nine marriage proposals: I was living like a trainee Stepford Wife Young and still experimenting with my sense of self, I was happy to pursue their pastimes, agree with their politics, even wear clothes they liked.***Besides, I find it easy to understand other points of view or problems and I get close to people quite quickly.
I'm always interested in other people's hobbies, families and their lives - I suppose that's why I'm a writer.
This intimacy can be misinterpreted for a lot, lot more than mere curiosity.My boyfriends assumed I was smitten with them because I fell into the habit of moulding myself into their ideal.A similar character can be found in Edith Wharton's short story "The Other Two," wherein the third and current husband of Mrs.Alice Waythone encounters the first two husbands by chance and is distressed to discover that these men -- who share nothing in common with him -- each had a relationship with his wife quite similar to his own.As professor Cynthia Griffin Wolff puts it: To each and every one of these three quite different men, Alice Waythorne had been the perfect wife: eager to please, ready and willing to adjust her behavior and desires to those of her husband. Waythorne lets this fatal knowledge penetrate his judgment, the very qualities he had most admired in his wife begin to seem grotesque and deformed.He wonders who she is, wonders whether she is anybody at all in particular.