You may not have set out to fall in love with a married man, but there are times in life when even the most intelligent women find their emotions getting the better of them.
Loving and dating a married man can be extremely painful and seldom works out well.
But this article is not intended to judge anyone or tell you to "just dump him!
Here's my best advice and things to remember: Women need to think and act the way men do to find happiness. Women have a tendency to meet a guy and then focus their entire lives on him.
How many men do you know who are ruining their lives because of a woman? They will stop thinking about attending school or put business plans on hold after meeting someone who sweeps them off their feet. But if he is, you have truly just shot yourself in the foot because you have given up a piece of yourself for a someone who belongs to another. Look at your lover boy for what he is and control your emotions.
Now, how many women do you know who have sacrificed all for a man? If he is obviously lying to you to keep you available to him, consider if the relationship is worth your time or not.
If he can somehow help you in life by making you more successful, paying your bills, or buying you a home, then you have gotten something to show for your time. If he is married and has no intention of leaving his wife, then he may have been dating many women over the years.
Usually when a man has this pattern, he dates the woman until she begins to expect more out of him.
Then, he dumps her, finds another woman to sleep with before getting rid of her when she gets tired of being a doormat.
The truth is, a guy will string you along as long as you will let him.
It's up to you to look out for yourself and avoid being taken advantage of.
Ask yourself this question: "What am I getting out of dating a married man?
" If you are not getting anything, you should ask the man to make the affair worth your time financially or move on. But if your guy plays with you for free and then goes home to his wife and plays the husband while you sulk, you are only torturing yourself and being a hooker who works for free.
To be wise and economical, it's time to ask your "boyfriend" to help you out financially.