You can rank this out, for example, my top preference is to have a soul mate, with mind mate second, play mate third, and help mate dead last.Whereas my husband would rank it this way: play mate, mind mate, help mate, soul mate.It sounds to me like your boyfriend’s top preference is to have a help mate. Lots of people prioritize help mate over all the other types.
Help mate and soul mate are the two most common preferences. Two soul mates together can look a lot like a high school or Romeo & Juliet romance, or yes, the honeymoon period.
A help mate is a partner who shares common goals and vision for the future, and who assists you in maintaining a home, building a career, saving for the future, raising children together. A soul mate is a partner who connects with you on a deeply intimate, emotional level. A mind mate is a partner who connects with you on an intellectual level.
Who shares your interest in science or philosophy or current events etc.
Every step of a developing relationship from the first date through marriage has its own customs and social norms that go along with it.
General expectations in the relationship rise as you move further along the path.
Those expectations are ever more real around holidays, because holidays involve gifts.Tangible, often measurable gesture of how much this person means to you. I’ve had a tendency to over-gift in the early stages of a relationship and I think it’s raised the bar past what the other person was comfortable with.Which can suck, because as a dedicated boyfriend / girlfriend, you’re usually working year-round to make this person feel special and it’s frustrating to have to go above and beyond just for one day. I remember I was dating a girl for about 2 weeks, her birthday was coming up AND I was about to leave on a big trip, so I wanted to make an impression.She mentioned rather casually that she used to play violin and she missed not owning one. I cringe when I look back on that one – it surely would have been a poor investment, considering I had just met her. Make a good impression and stay within appropriate means.Here’s a quick guide for what to get your sweetheart for Valentine’s Day: Continue reading Hey all, So I was browsing Reddit this afternoon and came across an amazing post.A Reddit user asked for help with her boyfriend who seems to have lost his “spark” with her. It describes the four functional types of relationships that people look for and how people can be compatible or incompatible based on their relationship “type.” I had to share it! From /u/temp4adhd – It’s been said that there are four different types of partners– soul mates, mind mates, play mates, and help mates — and we tend to have preferences for one type or the other.