Sure African men make better husbands….you don’t mind blindly obeying, never questioning, being belittled or even beaten occasionally for “misconduct” being humped on twice a day like a sex toy irregardless of your desire or risk hearing the teeth sucking and belittling if you ask for a break, knowing he’s sleeping with multiple women and disrespecting you by taking phone calls in another room, and having the sneaky audacity to bring another woman in your home and bed when he thinks you’re not around, if you are displeased with anything he does and bring it to his attention he throws a tantrum like a little boy, dealing with his mother and sisters jump on you about how poorly you take care of their “little boy” much like the African women jumped on the American in the vignette, knowing that rearing children is women’s work meaning that he only plays with your child when he/she is happy but shoving them in your face for a diaper change or when they cry. Polygamy because Africans are notorious for cheating which must be a strong genetic predisposal…I.e.
I think the African view of marriage is based on a. 70% of married Nigerians men and women have cheated multiple times on their spouses.
Traditionally whoever makes the money calls the shots.
And to be frank you don’t bite the hand that feeds you, so you supported whatever he said as long as he provided.
So I say all of this just to offer another viewpoint…yes american men have problems but so do Africans…your women were raised to be submissive which is great for you but American women as a whole are conditioned to be independent so the only hand to be bitten is our own…we will not submit to someone who we feel we are not respected by…also you may not see the list above as disrespectful but in our eyes it is.
Also to the gentleman who commented about precieved lack of american culture…that is a very ignorant statement just because women do not submit…we have our own culture which we have assimilated and adapted to our own.
Its all about perception Proud “African” American woman who dated a Cameroonian for over a year.
PS I have several Nigerian married friends who have verified these characteristics.
CHINYERE’S REPLY” It just amazes me how our boys from Africa find the worst kind of illiterate women to go out.If she hadn’t the accusation that “several Nigerian married friends….have verified these characteristics,” I wouldn’t have bothered replying to such an ignoramus.But I would prefer to allow others to reply to this nonentity. The action normally follows the words of some form of disbelief. Spitting for the Greek culture is a way of detracting any form of evil presence, taking the jinx off something and basically not tempting fate."Mum, my new job is going really well! "Mum to me: "You look so beautiful in that dress" Me: "Ftiseeeeee Maaaaaa! When we have instinct to spit, to 'protect' someone and we don't spit, it doesn't feel right. So careful we have the equivalent of fourteen eyes. In particular, my Gran's favourite move: the thigh slap.