Here are three questions and topic areas you should discuss with someone you meet online and who you think you might want to date seriously.
This question gets a bad rap sometimes as unimaginative and banal, but I think it’s hugely important.
What people do to earn a living tells you a lot about them.
However, don’t stop at just asking them what they do and then make assumptions what they think and feel about what they do. Ask them what they love about what do, and what they find a drag about their jobs or professions.Ask them whether they see themselves doing that sort of work in the future, or what their other hopes, dreams, and plans are.Whether we like it or not, our family backgrounds have played a big role in shaping us in all sorts of ways – our likes, dislikes, approach to communication and conflict, and what we instinctively consider to be “normal”.A decade ago, it was still considered sort of creepy if you admitted to meeting someone online.In many people’s minds, meeting online on a dating site or via email was an automatic strike against your chances of forging a serious, long-term relationship. Online dating has gone mainstream, and people are also striking up friendships and romances with people they “meet” on facebook, in chat rooms or game forums, and via email.
Meeting someone online is now one of the most common ways to find a partner.Literally millions of people who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to turn their attention to these relationships. One recent and independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.Does meeting online tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.After controlling for demographic differences between the online and real-world daters, those differences remained statistically significant.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.However, you can still do a lot during those early stages of checking each other out to boost your odds of making it work for you.This is especially important when you meet long distance. Well, for starters, you can ask good questions and listen carefully to the answers.