Whether the divorce was your idea or your spouse’s, most people find themselves experiencing negative emotions when their ex-spouse starts dating again. Here are 6 tips that will help you process those negative emotions:1. You spent a large part of your life with this person, and during the years you were together, dating and married, you came to think of that person as YOUR significant other.
Though you may not understand the feelings you are having, they are a natural part of moving on after a divorce.When you meet someone new, you will have a better perspective on how your ex is feeling about you and the relationship you both once had.2. Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was YOUR husband or YOUR wife, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.Remember what you think and what you feel can sometimes be at odds, but it’s perfectly normal to feel some jealousy and even look for things to criticize in your ex’s new partner. Divorce is not entered into lightly, and you probably have valid reasons for the divorce.And, if you've not moved on to a new relationship of your own, your jealousy may stem from the mere fact that they have. Keeping this in mind will help you to accept the changes that have come as a result and the confusing feelings you are having over your ex dating again.Every time you experience a negative reaction to your ex dating, stop and go through the list of reasons you are no longer married. Is it possible you are uncomfortable with the idea of your ex dating because you are stuck and unable to move forward with your life?
Remembering the negative aspects of your marriage can go a long way in helping alleviate any the unpleasant idea of him/her dating again. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying, “The best revenge is living well.” Well, it’s true!
If you are feeling jealous, the last thing you want is for your ex to know.
Instead of focusing on what he/she is doing, focus on living the best life you can and before you know it, you won’t be concerned with whether or not your ex is dating.5. The relationship that you had with your ex will never be reproduced with anyone else.
Each relationship between two people is different, and what you had together during your marriage will never be reproduced with someone else.
The special things you had together were unique to the two of you. When that time comes you aren't going to waste time worrying about who your ex is with.
So, when you feel jealousy or discomfort over your ex dating, remember that no one can really take the same place in your ex’s life that you had. Letting go is a process, and it may take you some time and effort to get there. Why not start not worrying about that now, instead of later?