Especially coming from a different culture that values hard work, sacrifice and family. The Asian values that I was raised with were considered beta by most American girls. I had a lot of friends in California who always talked about their limiting beliefs. I always believed in love and that love does not see color. As a young man, I used to chase girls, but that never works. The willingness to be persistent and to be positive. I also did not see white girls as superior to Asian girls. The second quality I had was, I never bought into the idea of Asian stereotypes. I was not aware of Asian negative stereotypes until this year.
I noticed the hottest American girl in my high school was dating an Asian guy (she was white if that matters to you; it shouldn’t). I gave him some of the same advice Chase gives to all his students. Stop talking about Asian stereotypes and start living your life. I've watched women who staunchly told me they'd never date a guy shorter than them end up with men they had half a foot on... I've listen to women tell me they'd never date a guy of a certain race, only for them to fall for a guy of precisely that race.
The first thing that came out of his mouth, when I was introduced to him: “Asian guys can’t get white girls.” WTF. Do not indulge, entertain or explore this idea or belief. I guess I was lucky, when I was in high school; the guys I saw who were successful with girls were Asian guys. My advice to young guys starting out, regardless if you’re Asian or not. the instant women smell confidence on you, all thoughts of disadvantage go away.
I was just glad I did not know him back in the days when I started out. An NYU girl, she was a member of a sorority, young, tall and beautiful. Edward had good game; he just didn’t believe in himself and needed to stop all that negative beliefs of Asian stereotypes. He’s been dating that American girl for more than two years. You know one thing I've noticed about supposedly "disadvantaged" guys is...
Note from Chase: Every now and then I get asked about Asian guys and white girls. I remember that Asian dude, and all I can say was, he was bad ass. He was fearless and did not give a shit what anyone thought of him. What I saw in Edward was a good looking guy who was confident. I eventually came to the realization that nothing is absolute, including what people find attractive is not the shade of your skin or the size of your eyes or the texture of your hair...
I understand why some guys ask this; there is a very human tendency we all have to say, "Well, that may work for you, but it's only because you're white / black / Asian / tall / muscular / super smart / naturally talented / some other thing outside of one's power to change." And no matter how much you tell people that that's just an excuse, many of them cling staunchly to this. I guess this subconsciously taught me that Asian guy are attractive. Edward didn’t see that; all he could see were his limiting beliefs. I decided to teach Edward in the three days I was there. it's how confident, dominant, and attractive you ARE that matters to them most.
Chase is a white guy; what does know about being Asian? Edward spent three years blaming his success with women on being Asian. The best quality about Edward was that he wanted to learn this.
In fact, I've had a number of Asian male friends who were very talented with white women. He met me in Union square for three days and three nights.
One of them was a Korean-American guy from Middle America who'd been a nightclub promoter and body builder and even when he was unemployed and not sure what he wanted to do with his life slept with tons of beautiful white girls more easily than most white guys can.
Another was a short Chinese-born guy who seemed to literally white women into bed by sheer persistence and charm.
But I still get questions from Asian guys about Asian guys and white girls, so I asked another Asian friend of mine named Jerome - yet another Chinese-born guy who does very well for himself with European and American white girls back in the US and elsewhere - to write a guest post on the topic. I was trying to move there to build a career in finance. I was in union square doing day game - I love day game - when I was introduced to a young good-looking Chinese guy named Edward. In addition to being good looking and fashionable, he was 6 feet tall. Edward had a great apartment in So Ho, was young, had a career he loved, good friends, and he was good-looking.
At first Jerome was a little confounded when I asked him. Growing up in America and trying to find love can be difficult. The first time I noticed these negative beliefs was when I was in NYC. Edward originally went to college in China, and had just graduated with an M. in Finance in America and had been recently promoted to V.