You don’t need official statistics to tell you divorce is a pretty strong trend. If you’re lucky, he has learned from the past and won’t make those same errors again with you. Sometimes people make the same mistakes in their relationships, over and over and over again. If you’re dating a divorced guy who has a tendency to repeat errors continuously in other areas of his life, then you’d better beware. A serious problem may come up if your guy has been hurt by his failed marriage. ) ended the relationship, then you might have an up-hill-battle on your hands. But in today’s world, where divorce is the norm, you might want to reconsider. A divorced man is likely to already have made mistakes in the past that an unmarried guy may not yet have experienced. Make sure you’ve got someone who admits to past mistakes and wants to do better in the future. Your initial reaction to the idea of dating a divorced man might simply be – No thanks! The advantage of dating someone who has already been “down-the-aisle” is that in many aspects of our lives – we make mistakes, learn from them and try NOT to repeat them in the future.
Don’t get upset when she’s around (whether physically or in his thoughts).Just remind yourself that she is part of his reality that you can’t change.If your guy is newly separated and in the process of getting the divorce finalized, you might want to check out Dating Advice: You, Him, and Not Quite Ex Wife! You do the math.” These quotes are some of the things divorced or separated women have said to me in the past few years, and I have to say, I can certainly relate. And there were times I seriously couldn’t believe why God would keep sending me loser after loser after loser. I was leaving a bad, bad situation that brought me to tears for years before I officially got separated. ” “My ex already has a girlfriend and I haven’t been on one date in over a year. ” “There are so many wonderful, smart, beautiful divorced women out there and all the men are either drug addicts, alcoholics, psychos, control freaks or cheaters. I had a few situations that were so unbelievable, that the stories ended up in my novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE.
Finding myself single again at 41 years old was not fun. But, I have to be honest, there was an element of excitement to being single. I was getting away from a marriage that wasn’t making either one of us happy, and I was moving into the unknown.
Not only was I going through the pain of a divorce, mourning the failure of my marriage, dealing with my two young kids’ feelings about daddy moving out, and worrying about finances, but now I had to go back out there into the nightmare world of dating?! And the unknown was semi-attractive, in the sense that at least it wasn’t “the known” which was constant fighting, misery, fear, sadness and loneliness.
So, into the unknown I went, and now it’s almost seven years later.
Getting to the point where I am today, however wasn’t easy.
It took: I realized I was the leader of my little family, and I had to take the role as the rock solid one, the go-to person, and the one my little kids could depend on 100% all the time. It gives my life purpose and meaning and joy that I can’t even begin to explain.
So, with all that said, that is the first thing on my list of 4 advantages to starting over at 40.