They usually begin by complaining about the available men. First, they meet men who are already in relationships but who take off their wedding ring to appear available.
To win these few good men, they have to improve themselves and compete with other women who are trying to get the same guy.
And, because there are only a few good ones out there (at least in their eyes) they don't want to be overly demanding.
When questioned about what they would ask for if they could, most women mention romance - they want to feel that they are the center of his world, that he can't help but fall in love with them, and it's them and only them that he wants.
Last week I was having lunch with a girl friend and we somehow ended up on the topic of romance and the current dating scene.
By the end of lunch, we reached the conclusion that romance is pretty much dead.
I was devastated at the thought, but I think we're right.
One of my main areas of research is on how women compete amongst each other for mates.
As part of that work, I have asked women about their perceptions of the dating market - what they have to do to acquire a good prospect in light of the fact that there are other women out there trying to win the same prize.
A comment I routinely hear is that they greatly dislike the dating scene today.
There are three main sources of concern - the quality of the mate, the energies they have to undertake to self promote, and the competition they face.
I should preface the rest of this blog by saying that I don't know much about men's views of the dating world, as it's not part of my research, so I'm going to focus on women here.